Before becoming alcohol-free, I was in a state of constant cognitive dissonance - I both wanted to drink and didn't want to drink, at the same time. I felt like I was split in two. The hangovers started to get worse and the anxiety seemed to come even when I hadn't drunk much.
When the kids came into my life, my relationship with alcohol started to fit less with the direction I was heading. It's one thing to go out and party every weekend when everyone else is doing the same. But with kids in the picture, that part of my life started to change, which I found hard to accept. I still wanted to have fun, relax and be able to 'be myself'. But the only way I knew how was by drinking. When the weekend arrived, I tried to make plans as best I could to find a reason to drink. Drinking became the reason to be social.
I was looking forward to the Friday beer at work and felt excited and happy to go home in the afternoon to celebrate the weekend with a glass or two. But the chatter in my head started getting more and more intrusive. "Oh! Just one more, you've only had four (or five, or six)".
Sometimes I would drink in secret after my wife had gone to bed. Not crazy amounts, maybe a sip here or a glass there, but I started to feel like I wasn't heading for a good place.
When I came home late from a dinner party and felt I hadn't had enough, I could have a whisky or two before I went to bed. At first only occasionally, but eventually, it became the rule rather than the exception.
I started imposing restrictions like taking a sober night the next day, to show myself that I was actually in control. I wanted to control the alcohol and tried many different ways. Counting bottlecaps by putting them in my pocket or using an app to keep track of my BAC. Sometimes I succeed, but for the most part I gave up after the fourth or fifth glass...
All this changed when I made a decision - to become curious. I asked myself what else was possible for me. Was I missing something important in life by holding on to my alcohol habit? Through This Naked Mind I learned to question what I thought alcohol was really giving me. Eventually, I realized how deceived I had been and how many others were in the same position as me.
Now my goal is to help others become free and reach their full potential in life. Stopping drinking is not the end, it is the beginning. The beginning of your journey to discover who you really are, deep down.
So take on this challenge, not because you have to, but because you want to. Embrace it with an open and curious mind, ready to question everything you've learned about how you and the world around you work. You won't regret it, and one day you might look back on this moment and thank yourself for taking the plunge.
If you want to talk to me directly and hear more about how I can help you, book a free introductory call and take the first step towards finding your true self.
The company behind the This Naked Mind methodology knew that this method works. But to really get an idea of how well it works, they commissioned an independent report that was recently published. The report shows the following statistics, among others:
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